Overview & Guide

You are incredible.

You have things to offer this world that no one else can offer in the same way as you.

Your talents and gifts matter and make a difference to the people around you. Who you are matters and your family, friends, neighbors, and community need to be blessed by the goodness that is in YOU.

To truly bless the world with the goodness that is YOU…

You need to be comfortable with who you are and willing to let others see that person. You need to know that you have good parts—strengths, abilities, personality—that others are drawn to and can be blessed by.

You also need to know that you have flaws and imperfections, things that you struggle with, weaknesses that make you human.

We ALL do.

What matters is letting others see both parts—the strengths, the struggles, and everything in between. To really connect with others, it’s crucial to feel like you can allow them to see all of you. The real, authentic, imperfect, amazing, trying hard you.

Become More Comfortable with YOU

Too often we let others define who we are and we start to lose sight of the incredible person inside. We lose our authentic self, and this creates challenges in our relationships, in our mental health, in our happiness. By shedding some of those labels and expectations of others, you can more fully claim who you are.

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All of this is founded on having a Strong Sense of Self

That means knowing who you are and loving who you are but not letting others be the ones who figure that out for you.

Next, take a closer look at ways others define who you are…

Take a closer look at 6 common ways that we often allow others to define who we are rather than being our authentic selves. When we do this, we lose clarity about who we are and our capacity to be in close relationships is weakened.

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#1: Body Image: Do you struggle with defining yourself by what you look like? Your hair, your weight, your face…?

#2: Comparison: It’s something you probably know all about, but do you know ways that you do it?

#3: Gendered Expectations: Do you ever put yourself in a box of what a woman (or a man) is expected to be?

#4: Seeking Validation: How much of what you do is motivated by a desire for approval from others? (Or avoiding disapproval?)

#5: “Shoulds:” Do you ever find yourself doing things because you think you “should” or you are “supposed to?”

#6: Emotional Fusion: Have you been in a relationship (or are you currently in one) that makes you feel like you’re losing your own sense of identity?

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    Continuing to Grow

    don’t stop there…

    As you continue on this journey, there are a few more important things you can work on in your life. Challenging yourself, taking ownership of yourself (and only yourself), and developing emotional intimacy are all important parts of growing into who you are.

    Challenging Yourself A Tale of Two Characters
    Taking Ownership of yourself and only yourself
    Allowing others to see you Deeply: Emotional Intimacy

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    ~ Colleen