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Episode 15: From Pressure to Passion in Your Sexual Relationship

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For many women, the sexual relationship can be a complicated one. When you’re busy taking care of kids or other people a lot of the time, sex can start to feel like a chore or like one more person who wants something from you. Or it might be that you felt desire in the past but you can’t seem to find it now and wonder if it’s buried under a big pile of laundry or where it got lost.

You might feel like something is wrong with you that things aren’t as good in the bedroom as you feel like they should be. Or you might feel a lot of pressure around your sexual relationship that’s leaving you disconnected and unsure of what to do next.

In this episode of Relate-Able, we are talking with Ariel Finlinson, a sex educator, about how to move from pressure to passion in our sexual relationship with mindset shifts, small changes, and finding ways to build connection that feels right to you.

A Sneak Peek of What You’ll Find in This Episode:

What’s Happening to Women’s Sexuality?

Women’s sexuality is different from men’s and we are often taught about sex from a male-centric lens.

This often means that we don’t understand our own sexual response or our own needs or desires and that can make it hard to have experiences that are aligned with pleasure for both of us. 

On top of that, many of us are used to being accommodating, agreeable, and caretakers, that it’s really easy for that to creep over into the bedroom and land us in a situation in which his pleasure and experience is prioritized and we downplay our own experience or engage in duty sex.

Key Episode Takeaways

Redefining sex changes the experience:

We’ve often got ideas in our minds like “men need sex” or “I need to be attractive and good enough for him to love me” or any number of other thoughts that interfere with our ability to enjoy sex with our partner. We can also feel like we don’t want to be touched anymore when we’ve done a lot of caretaking already.

But shifting to see sex as something that can be for you, something that is a way to experience your partner’s love instead of feeling like you always have to give can transform the experience for both of you.

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